Best, My team and I provide one on one coaching so we can give you individual guidance on your situation. Best, But Im losing my mind. That same night I sent her my notes of how I felt everyday we were together, but only just the note of one day. She did mention at times, that shes scared as she has been single for a long time and things will change when she gets married with her son etc etc. What should I do? Not clongy or being pushy. What I would recommend is going 30 day no contact and making sure you get your emotions aligned with you so she does not take control of them. I know that i should also use this time to focus on my development. So we had a talk after she wanted to break up. So I claim them as mine. And finally we met, and she want space, she talked a lot about my mistake at all once. Obv its been 4 months since our break up. Im 37 shes 31, we met a year ago when she was here (we live in different countries), we had huge up and downs, during this time she went out with other guys as me with other girls, but we got in a point that we didnt like that so we got official 2 month ago. I have a program called She Needs Space it gives you insights on what to do and how to act when a woman says she needs space. I became distant? What I would suggest is give her the space needed and let her initiate everything with you. He bit on her, physically and emotionally. Apollonia, I was dating this girl for about a month then she broke up with me cause she couldnt handle school , and sorority and she felt she couldnt give me the relationship I wanted . Hey am asaph my girlfriend asked for space bt I dont know what to do, Hi Nasasira. Ryan, Can you help?, Hello Apollonia, I am very confused. So my situation is like this ,i was best friend with this girl for like a year and we were just perfect with each other , always talking and meeting and stuff , but with the time i fell in love with her , the problem is that she has never had a boyfriend and she was too afraid of commitment , so she shut me down many times , until i got fed-up and i just walked away , then she started pursuing me and saying that she wants to be friends again and stuff , i thought i could that but with time i just couldnt do it , she did something really great for me in my birthday and her birthday was during that week too , so i did something very special for her , and she showed her appreciation and love for me , but still as friends, but after that i have just walked away, and i was very cold towards her , and i applied the no contact rule but later after a week she surprised me one morning with a text saying that she loves me and she wants to be involved with me romantically, i was excited and so happy to the degree that i ignored the basics of your teachings , so i acted needy all the time , texting , asking to meet her and every mistake possible , so she pulled away, the problem is that i come from a different background , sex is something prohibited for us until we get married , even a kiss is not allowed and thats okay because its my religion , but the problem is that without that , i am missing a big part of the relationship chemistry because were only involved emotionally and not physically , so i tend to do a lot to make up for that and most of the time that pushes her away , given that she is a very busy person and we hardly meet , so she likes to text a lot . Due to my busy schedule if you want more advice from me I would be happy to get on a coaching call with you! I know I need to calm down, but my only concern is I am unsure how to handle the future, let her call/text first (things she doesnt really do) or in a few weeks time send her a casual message about something that reminded me of her and play it off as a chance to be curious about her and how she is doing? Join: 5 days ago Thats why I created this article! So I can give you further guidance. This could take weeks or months but the best thing you can do in regards for attraction and for yourself is let her initiate contact since she was not to reciprocating before. I txted her multiple times and tried calling Im not blocked but it shows shes reading all my txts without her replying back so Im pretty confused along with the whole space thing. Theyre not participating in discussions and asking you questions. I dont want to tell you to back away or to try to initiate cause I dont know exactly what happened in the relationship and I can give you the wrong advice. READ THIS How to get an ex back after 3 months if you're still interested! I now only try and help when she seems stressed and annoyed and comes to me, but sometimes, doesnt want to talk about it I just want space when Im annoyed like this while other times she fully vents to me. The last 2 months or so have been very hard. If she felt that you were suffocating her. We are in LDR relationship.before two days ago suddenly she said that she needs time I had not asked any questions and said ok you can take your time but she said that she willle call me once in a day for 5 minutes and treated like as a friend for some days. For the first week we were still flirting but over time she became more distant. What do you do? Hello Joe, Although her ex was overly caring and loving her, he was constantly pestering her and pressuring her into things which she really couldnt take it anymore. Now is your time to showcase strength instead of an attachment. I can go see her, we do talk, text and video chat but thats all. I would highly suggest to watch our youtube videos, start with this one https://youtu.be/IHxpL_E4Ihg. She also brought up religion because shes a huge devout Baptist and Im a Muslim, but not as devout or religious. I started changing things, I focused on improving myself. | Terms of service |Policy|About|Contact Us. She needed space. If she comes back just showcase your change with actions instead of words. Apollonia Ponti, an international certified coach and founder of apolloniaponti.com. I couldnt get it out of my mind so i contacted her a few days later and she sounded really eager/happy to hear from me and said she didnt expect me to reach out anymore. i was tried to manipulate her mind control, Hello Curtis, At the beginning of the relationship she was very clingy and romantically affectionate, and we were very sexually active together. I like to know how can i win her back? Hey, Ive been spending time with a girl over the past few months pretty often. Maybe Ive been TOO supportive and understanding at times. The thing is she JUST got out of an abusive MARRIAGE. We both feel like that we have a soul mate connection. If I should text, what should text her? This was something that happened and probably shocked the both of you and as time goes on she will connect with you again. A woman typically takes you for granted if she is always asking for space, especially when you are too available. Apollonia. Thank you for reading When she says she needs space, heres what to do!. Then she asked if I wanted to have dinner later. In a womans mind, when she sees you as less available, shell start reaching out to you. A week will be this Monday. I was a little bummed out but understood considering i felt the same to begin with. She is very hot and cold, saying she doesnt want to see me, then I drop food off for her and she invited me inside and we talked about things and she told me she loved me. Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/apollonialovecoach/. Should I literally just live my life not worrying about her or should I be there to support her? I got out, we went for a week Stay-cation with the kids to Great wolf lodge which was a great time and she paid for everything even food but it was ok with her, pretty much we she was all about me and talked on the phone and texted even when she went to visit her family to Kansas we facetime on the phone every day and every night with the kids as well. I understand the win-win situation of it also and I agree with it. I do think that you losing control of who you are by not eating and also being too needy towards her isnt healthy but can ruin or slow down the process of getting back together. Im going to give her space but Im asking you is it over? I dont know if i should let her contact me or if its ok for me to do so and if I should even set up a casual date or anything. What I would suggest is for you to continue to give her time and not smother her. Well, she might continue to fall because she knows that youre going to be there to pick her up. I would encourage you to book a session here. Apollonia. I made sure that I supported her with love, caring for her and her daughter, supporting her financially, and making sure she doesnt run into any obstacles.